open marriage

• Question:-Open Marriage?
  Ok, if you have a open Marriage, how does that work? and if it is your first time? My friend is going to have a open marriage, they have been on a rough road in the marriage, but will open marriage help them? and will it save the Marriage?
  
  Answer:-The way it works is that both parties are contracting to the legality of marriage (tax benefits, benefits...), but are not contracting to be faithful. They can date other people (there may be some rules, depending on the relationship), but they are still married.
  
  It isn't the best plan and it will cause jealousy and hurt feelings, but it is a good short term solution to see how you feel. My friends have had open relationships (while dating and betrothed), but all of them eventually broke up. I would only think that an open marriage would be worth it if it was for health insurance reasons, otherwise it seems like a really bad idea.
• Question:-Open marriage?
  Do you have an open marriage with your partner (meaning that you can see other people)?
  
  If not, would you ever consider an open marriage?
  
  Thanks!
  I would consider it, but I certainly understand the viewpoints of those who wouldn't.
  just for future reference, swinging and polyamory is not the same thing.
  
  Answer:-I am in an open relationship, one that is on the polyamory side of the continuum.
  
  It does require a lot of work since we must be willing and able to maintain multiple commitments. This requires strong levels of communication, honesty, respect, and trust. We need to be willing to work through any issues that might come up quickly, before they have a chance to undermine our relationship(s). It takes a lot of work but for me, being open to the added love and connection is definitely worth it.
  
  I currently live in a MFM household with my partner and her other male partner. Not only am I in love with her, but another woman who lives about 40 miles away.
• Question:-Which sign(s) would work best in an open marriage?What signs like to have more then one partner?
  I feel pisces & gemini's for sure would be best in open marriages!
  
  The signs i feel that should have open marriages are cancers, scorpios, pisces & gemini's!
  
  The reasons cause the water signs are very sexual & love variety!The gemini or air signs in general cant make up their minds of what they want or switch their minds to darn quick.
  
  What signs do you think would be best for an open marriage?
  
  Answer:-Pisces and Geminis maybe because they have the mutable character in them...
  But I definitely would say Aquarius and Leos.
  Aquarius because their nature is that way: they cannot belong to 1 person only, they "belong" to everybody- They are very strong (mind) so they can handle open relationships better than the sensitive Pisces or the changing Gemini. Most Aquarius also have plenty of Pisces in them, so it could enhance this trait.
  Leos because they get bored easily, especially sexually, and need new challenges in order to spice up their family life... plus Leos are good at separating Love and Sex.
  
  But certainly not the possessive Scorpios or the lovable Cancer! Scorpios couldn't stand seeing their loved ones being shared by someone else. Open marriages go against everything the family oriented Cancers stand for..
• Question:-Why is my husband forcing open marriage on me just to keep mistress?
  He moved out and stopped having sex with me 2yrs ago to be with his mistress full time.
  
  Why is he forcing an open marriage on me when he knows I'm trying to fix this broken marriage for our kids.
  
  Answer:-he isn't.... you are letting him.
  
  
  get a divorce... and get rid of this LOWLIFE SCUM.
  
  
  you don't stay married for the sake of the kids..... only does more harm than good.
• Question:-What is the definition of an open marriage?
  Under this definition, do you think an open marriage can realistically work?
  
  Answer:-Open Marriage is an arrangement between the husband and wife to permit one or both of them to have sexual relationships with other people. Often there are "rules" that limit the amount or kinds of relationships that are permitted e.g. 'we can see other people only when we are separated due to business travel'.
  
  It works for some people but for others it causes the marriage to fall apart.
• Question:-How to get an open marriage?
  I'm currently married for 27 years and I want to change it so its an open marriage where we can both see others. I told her I wanted to do that, but she's not too keen on it. Any ideas on how to sell the open marriage concept to a reluctant spouse?
  
  Answer:-Open marriage is not for everyone, but I will say you are at an ideal age. Most want to try young in a marriage, and that is bad.
  
  You should check out Jenny Block. She is the expert, and has a great book. See if your wife would be willing to read this book.
  
  I would ask why you want an open marriage. Is it purely for the sex? If so, I would go the swinging route. Are you wanting another life partner to share their life, and maybe even your spouse as well, a kind of poly relationship? Check out a site called lovemore.com.
  
  Not all open marriages are sexual.
  
  There are a lot of risk, and it requires a lot of communication, renegotiating of your relationship that can be very stressful on some. If you're wife hates stress, she might be willing to try, but she will get sick of complexity.
  
  There is always a chance it could go south. If you are trying to improve your marriage, think again, if done for this reason, it will destroy it.
  
  Then there is possibility that you or her could land a psycho who tries to mess up your life or hers to get you full time.
  
  Another less thought of situation, and this baffles sexy women, it's hard to openly date while married. Most single people will run from married people, even if you have open marriage because they just don't trust it. Most women are looking for a future. Most guys want to have sex without fear of having you or a camera hiding in a closet. Most think it would be just as easy as people cheat, but most cheaters are deceptive at first. If you are open, and honest, most will not know how to take it, if they even trust you. Just look at all the negative comments you got from the traditional types.
  
  I wouldn't push your wife into anything if you respect your marriage, even if being open is the goal. She remains primary, and she never becomes anything less unless you are ready to say good-bye to her.
  
  If she can get around the initial trauma, which may not show itself right away, maybe even years down the road, you two might have a chance at it.
  
  I would say for now is just talk about it in her comfort zone, and if she does not want to talk, I would let it go.
  
  Good Luck!
• Question:-Since Newt Gingrich prefers an "open marriage" is that any different than a Mormon who likes poligamy?
  His ex says Newt wanted to have his cake and eat it too. She said that Newt told her his now current wife approved of Newt carrying on with other woman, and understood that Newt was too much for any one gal at a time and he needed an open marriage to support his Patriotism and Country.
  
  Do so called Social Consaervatives approve of Newt the family values guy?
  
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• Question:-what are your feelings toward an open marriage?
  How do you feel about open marriages? Consider that both partners have discussed the possibility and both are fine with idea. Boundaries and "rules" have been discussed and in place. How many people think a mature couple who indulge in an open marriage can make it work and how many think not? Why or why not?
  
  Answer:-Open marriages can and do work. The problem is keeping your emotional relationship alive and well, while sharing your bodies with other people.
  
  You can love many people and for different reasons. And maintain physical relationships.
  
  In order to do that, you have to be careful not to fall into traps. One of those traps is falling in love with someone you're seeing on the side, even with your spouse's permission; and keeping the marriage working too.
  
  Many couples have open marriages. Its not a majority. But they do it if they choose to with the understanding that the married couple always come first. Their needs as a family come first. Etc.
  
  Is it recommended? No. Humans are at cross-purposes. We want to have sex with others, but at the same time we want sexual exclusivity.
  
  It doesn't make sense. But if you redefine the rules, it can still work.
• Question:-If you have lived in an open marriage please give advice?
  My husband and I have talked about having an open marriage. Not on my end but on his. If anyone has been in this form of marriage can you please give me some advice on what to do and not do.
  
  Answer:-Never been... and never will believe in open marriages.......
  
  I've counseled too many couples that have.... best way to ruin a marriage.
  
  only reason someone wants it open.... is because they want permission to cheat.... pure and simple.
  
  You took a vow... and so did your spouse...... LIVE IT.
• Question:-Is adultery a sin in an open marriage?
  If me and my wife agree to an open marriage, can we ask for special permission to be exempt from the adultery commandment? We're both relaxed about sex with other partners as it is healthy and natural for humans to be like that.
  
  Answer:-Adultery is one of the ten commandments. So yeah, it's probably a sin.